Shows like dating in the dark
This is why self-care routines like exercise and having a good diet are so fundamental to attractiveness. Your external status is conveyed by how you’re dressed etc.Your internal status is the confidence you project, stemming from your skills, your self-esteem, your belief system. This is why people generally know who they find attractive in like 30 seconds.Our minds quickly process health and status information about someone. None of those are qualities I have ever found particularly attractive.Arguing against such behavior as “shallow” or “superficial” or accusing people of being “looks-based” is futile – attraction short-cuts are hard-wired into our reptilian brains. This is why you can become attracted to someone over time by getting to know them. We need to stop asking people this style of logic question because (it’s a separate issue and blog-post whether a romance-based model of relationships and marriages makes much sense in the first place).I was at the Alchemist bar, a classy gothic bar with very interesting art. The apple of temptation, delivered by a witch whose identity was unbeknownst to the innocent children, who somehow overlook her gnarly face and the curly-pointed hat and her black robes…it sent a shiver down my spine. The witch was the heartbreak that always reveals its ugly face after you’ve taken bites of the apple.
This new twist on the ever-popular matchmaking format takes the notion of "blind date" to its literal extreme as Aussie guys and girls have various liaisons in pitch-black conditions over several days. And if so, will they still want to pursue a relationship when they each know what the other looks like?This became very clear to me when I attended a workshop on Social Intelligence earlier this week (with Jaunty – a life school) and came across a framework called the “Pyramid of Attraction”.It’s so highly relevant to our lives that I felt it deserved a blog-post: The point of the pyramid is it shows what weighs the most in your attraction — the base layer, and what weighs the least — the tiny triangle of ‘logic’ at the top.In the silhouettes, two children are wandering around in a forest, and then a witch emerges. Yet you have to pretend you are not taking the other person in and just jump into free-flowing easy confident conversation.I think we should institute a time-out of 2 minutes where each person walks around the other, looks them up and down, smells them and does some basic checks like stretching their arm out, tapping them to see they’re made of the right material, inspecting their muscle-fat composition.