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It’s essentially the reason Google started hiring outside of the Ivy League: People who weren’t bred to think they can’t be wrong have an easier time failing with dignity and poise. To find success at dating, on the Internet or anywhere else, we must possess an almost foolish willingness to fail. In an effort to preserve sanity, I discovered very early that what is good and beautiful about me doesn’t require external validation.If someone doesn’t “match” with me (online or in real life), it doesn’t mean I’m less valuable.[Amy Schumer’s advice for single women: Keep your standards high] As a middling, I’ve discovered that my inherent greatness won’t always be universally accepted.To be fair, I’ve also learned this by being a black woman.Meeting Russian Ladies has never been easier or more efficient. Society tells them they’re beautiful and they’re mad at Tinder and Ok Cupid for not providing better prospects. I’m the average-looking sidekick, “the one who online dates,” and it’s my fault they aren’t having a better time.
This little factoid adds a layer of difficulty for some of my friends, but the unresponsiveness and awkwardness isn’t unique to beautiful people.
The odds might be against me, but that doesn’t mean I don’t deserve to play the game.
In case you were wondering, being unapologetically “ordinary” has implications beyond online dating.
My best friend, who looks like the racially ambiguous lovechild of Brad Pitt and Pocahontas, waves her phone at me in righteous indignation. Several of my “classically attractive” friends are pissed.
“You have no idea what it’s like to be called beautiful all the time,” a good friend once remarked.