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By Hayley Krischer The truth is out: You don't like some of your partner's friends.
“I got so sucked into my best friend’s brother that I didn't even realize my friendship with her was starting to fade away.
He ended up coming between our friendship, and I don't think it will ever be what it was.
That has to indicate some kind of meeting of the minds, right? Say something like this to your partner: "Go out with your friends.
However, if you've tried being supportive, communicative, compassionate and inviting, but you still aren’t getting any love back, then take a breather.
This especially rings true if that friend is the family member of your new crush!
Maybe they're messy drunks who keep drawing your wife down their negative, drama-filled path.
Or maybe they're self-admitting sexists who tell crass, demeaning jokes whenever you're around (jokes your husband laughs off).
Or, “We have a history together.” Or, “You just don’t understand them.” What to do? Birds of a feather don't always flock together: As long as your partner stays true-blue, staying mum about his/her friends is the path of least resistance. The trick here is to handle your feelings in the most nonjudgmental way possible, says Hartman, because it’s counterproductive to call them idiots.
According to some experts, the solution to this common relationship issue is a little thing called... After all, no matter how you feel about your partner's pals, the fact remains that these bozos are a part of your life. “The worst thing you can do is try to get [your partner] to see his friends for what they are, which forces him to go to their defense -- and his own defense for liking them,” says Hartman. "To insult a partner's friends is to insult your partner," she says. "A healthy, evolved person chooses friends that inspire, support and share the same values on some level," she notes.